Bullies

bullies

Bullying can have a lifelong impact!

Dealing with bullying can be difficult for anyone, but is especially significant if the victim has (or is genetically prone to) an anxiety disorder like social anxiety.  The bad memories such as name calling, physical abuse or exclusion from social groups can burn a deep path in the victim’s mind.

If you are being bullied now or were bullied in the past, I understand your pain.  I was bullied too and it did have a negative impact on my life.  But – my life did get better and the memories of these horrible experiences are simply memories now which no longer have an impact on my physical and emotional well-being.

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Types of Bullying

Physical

A bully may knock books out of his victim’s hands, may shove her or hit her.  No matter what the level of severity is, it’s distressing.

  • Communicate and ask for help
  • Stay strong, try acting like you are confident.  Bullies target the weak.
  • Surround yourself with supportive and outgoing friends.

Verbal

Words do hurt!  Name calling and teasing can have a long-term effect on the victim’s emotional stability.  When rumors are spread, that adds even more complexity to the widespread impact on victims.

  • Know the truth about yourself.  Even though you hear hurtful words, let them go and fill your mind with positive thoughts about yourself.
  • Tell the bully to stop and walk away
  • Ask for help!  This is a common theme with all forms of bullying – communicating is so important – I can’t stress it enough.

Cyber-bullying

This is becoming more of a problem with social media and mobile phones.  The fact that the number of bullies seems to continue to increase may be due, in part, to these new methods of bullying.  It’s easier to bully someone when you don’t have to look them in the eye.  This type of bullying really hurts because it could reach a far wider audience compared to an in–person attack.

  • Validate that your privacy settings are as secure as possible.  Remove a friend from your social media site if she is harassing you.
  • Block the phone number of someone who is bullying you through text messages.
  • Parents:  If your child is cyber-bullied, please remember how serious this is.  Pay attention to what’s happening on your child’s social media sites.  Keep the communication lines open.

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